Resources for Allies

1. Gender and name people correctly.

2. Correct other people.

3. Educate yourself: your queer friend is not your queer dictionary. Use resources like this instead.

4. Educate others.

5. Remember that love is greater than understanding.

Designed to help build understanding and comfort. If you are new to LGBTQ+ issues, we will answer many of your questions. Or, if you have known LGBTQ+ people for years and are looking to find new ways to show your support, you can skim this resource and take the pieces that are relevant to you. It’s ok to not know everything — we’re here to help.

In English, whether we realize it or not, people frequently refer to us using pronouns when speaking about us. Often, when speaking of a singular human in the third person, these pronouns have a gender implied — such as “he” to refer to a man/boy or “she” to refer to a woman/girl. These associations are not always accurate or helpful.

This guide is created to help anyone learn how to use people’s correct pronouns. Everyone in your school community should engage in learning, educating, and advocating for the inclusive use of pronouns for all.

A gender-inclusive school makes certain that regardless of one’s gender identity or gender expression, students are included, respected and supported in all aspects of the school environment without restriction or limitation of any kind.